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Random thoughts on Friday afternoon

Bumper sticker of the day: "Keep Music Evil!"
URL of the day: No Such File.

Yesterday, I got a Christmas package from L. A little something for everything; something to feel, something to taste, something to see... Very, very cool. It included some elements that my wife can enjoy, as well.

Going to be a busy couple of weeks. My parents will be visiting for Christmas, as will our friends Thumper and Sara. We'll likely be seeing the secondary girlfriend for some part of the upcoming week, as well. At least this time we don't have to hide the whips and chains or otherwise "parent-proof" the house!

I won't say that my parents have always been perfect or flawless, or that they have in all things been without error of any kind. But I am thankful that I've never had to conceal anything from them.

Maybe that has made me impatient with people who have families that are not so understanding. I deeply resent having to go through the house whenever my wife's parents are in town, hiding anything that might disturb them; and I think it's unfortunate we can't really be who we are in front of them. But then, it's an imperfect world.


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alby
Dec. 21st, 2001 06:17 pm (UTC)
Wow, it is amazing that you and your parents can have this type of communication and understanding. Amazing not because it is not how it should be, but amazing because it does not happen very often. As a parent I would like to be able to be like this, although I don't know how I would or how I will react... We'll have to wait and see.

And it seems that they did a great job too! :-)
tacit
Dec. 23rd, 2001 01:08 pm (UTC)
Why, thank you!

My mother met my secondary girlfriend for the first time a couple of months ago, and considered introducing herself as "your pseudo-mother-in-law."

I won't say my parents always understand the choices we make, but they don't judge,/i> them, either.
melanie
Jan. 1st, 2002 03:40 pm (UTC)
My mom is aware of all the various...things...that I'm into. What's she going to do, judge me? I think not. :-p Her life has been so colorful that there's not much I could do that would surprise her, anyway. And she knows me too well to hide things, so... :shrug:

I barely know my dad, but I'm not actively trying to keep anything from him. If he figures things out through his dealings with me and wandering about my house, then fine.

As for my husband's parents - they're the Cleavers. My husband has made noises about filling them in on everything a few times - mainly, because he wants to be able to introduce them to his SO and feel comfortable bringing her around to family functions and such... I would be surprised if they could handle such info, though. And I dread the looks and awkwardness that would exist once they knew. Still, it's *his* parents, so if he wants to do this, it's his deal.

My SO's parents couldn't handle it. And they're in their 70's, so we'd just as soon not give them that last big jolt, ya know.

Misterx's SO's mom is a mean, closedminded bitch. She'd make Lilith17's life miserable if she knew. So, as far as she's concerned, we're just Lilith17's strange married friends, with the husband who creeps her out in some indeterminate way. :-) Fine by me.

I guess at this point in my life, when it comes to my interpersonal relationships - if I feel a person can't handle it, then they don't deserve that kind of in-depth view. Not so much about hiding as not voluteering. It doesn't mean they're not worthy of being in my life at some level - it's just that everyone has their comfort zone, and they can choose to ignore the hints they don't want to take, and I won't try to wave flags at them.

To put it another way: I won't take the eye bolts out of the rafters over my bed just because Misterx's parents are coming over. But I don't use the toys to decorate the headboard, either. :-) (of course, our oldest girl is approaching "snooping" age anyway, so everything will have to be locked up soon. Some things you just don't wanna know about your parents - yech!)
tacit
Jan. 4th, 2002 08:49 pm (UTC)
"To put it another way: I won't take the eye bolts out of the rafters over my bed just because Misterx's parents are coming over. But I don't use the toys to decorate the headboard, either. :-)"

Funny you should mention that...last time my inlaws visited, we "parent-proofed" the house, but my wife somehow forgot to hide the flogger we keep draped over the headboard of the bed. Ooops...
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