Franklin Veaux (tacit) wrote,
Franklin Veaux
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File under "should be obvious"...

From an email I just made on a polyamory-related list:

I've found that a lot of my relationship fears vanish and my relationships become a lot stronger and more healthy when I start with certain assumptions: namely, that my partners want to be with me, that they see value in me, that when given the opportunity they will seek to make choices that honor our commitments and cherish the relationship we're in, that they are honest and can be counted on to behave with integrity, and that when they say they love me, it's because they do.

Often it seems to me that people base relationship rules on the assumption that their partners can not be trusted, that if given free action their partners will not choose to honor and nurture their relationships, and that their partners are harboring secret agendas involving dumping them when someone 'better' (whatever that means) comes along. I can't quite fathom building a relationship on those assumptions, nor why someone would want to remain in a relationship where they were true.

Ahh, the mysteries of life.
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