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Map of Non-Monogamy Re-Revisited

[Edit] There is yet another update to the map here. You can also find my book on non-monogamy here.

Because my brain is totally broken...

I woke up very, very early this morning and couldn't get back to sleep, because it suddenly occurred to me that entire classes of non-monogamy were missing from the last version I did. Plus, I thought of a lot more edge cases. And since the only way I can get this stuff out of my head is to put it on the Interwebs, here it is!

As before, click for a bigger version. A much, much bigger version, that will pulverize your bandwidth the way Chuck Norris pulverizes your pelvis. Or something. I don't know.


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Aug. 2nd, 2010 02:26 pm (UTC)
Love it. I can see how this is bound to evolve like the last map.
Aug. 3rd, 2010 11:25 am (UTC)
It's still evolving, actually. I'm working on new revisions right now. Man, this relationship stuff gets complicated!
Aug. 2nd, 2010 02:26 pm (UTC)
Should that yellowish box at the center near the bottom (but not at the bottom) have a label?
Aug. 2nd, 2010 02:43 pm (UTC)
I think that's part of the (L-shaped) "Casual Sex" box, if I'm looking where I think you're looking.
(no subject) - cos - Aug. 2nd, 2010 02:50 pm (UTC) - Expand
Aug. 2nd, 2010 02:34 pm (UTC)
I want to be able to add x's an put down where some of my different relationships are! .. could even be snarky and have a red X outside the whole mess labled "you" for the whole I am bi-poly-kinky and I STILL won't sleep with you meme.
Aug. 2nd, 2010 02:53 pm (UTC)
Even more cool! But why does the Alice and Bob swinging appear twice, in different categories?
Aug. 2nd, 2010 02:57 pm (UTC)
Alice and Bob appear three times: as closed-group swinging ("We only swing with...") and as polyfi ("We only swing with...and we've been doing it for 15 years!"), and also in polyamory. I've actually known a poly group that evolved from swinging through polyfi to poly that way. Perhaps it's a bit too subtle?
(no subject) - petite_lambda - Aug. 2nd, 2010 03:05 pm (UTC) - Expand
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Aug. 2nd, 2010 03:14 pm (UTC)
I love the way the new map has evolved!

-- A :D
Aug. 2nd, 2010 03:39 pm (UTC)
Holy doodle! :: admires map from several angles ::

Your dreams must be wondr'ous places, with a cast of thousands.... ;-)
Aug. 3rd, 2010 11:24 am (UTC)
They are, and sometimes they're relentlessly bizarre. And involve flying experimental gyrojets that have no attitude or directional controls at all.
(no subject) - wanted_a_pony - Aug. 3rd, 2010 01:01 pm (UTC) - Expand
Aug. 2nd, 2010 06:58 pm (UTC)
This is fantastic! Funny yet accurate....
Aug. 2nd, 2010 09:57 pm (UTC)
I like the concept a lot but I'd recommend rounding the corners of the regions so that it's clearer what's a corner and what's an intersection. You could experiment with adding subtle lines to the region's edges as well as rounding the corners to further clear it up. Or, you could try thick, solid-colored lines on the edges, with very subtle pastel-ish versions of those colors for the interiors. Some of the regions are also needlessly complex in their shapes (eg you don't need the top right corner of don't ask don't tell to be clipped out).

I don't mean to be critical, but I'd love to see the content pop out more easily.

Aug. 3rd, 2010 11:23 am (UTC)
The rounded corners is a most excellent idea. The next revision will have that; it does make the regions easier to see (and it looks better too).

I'm experimenting with borders on the areas; it's tough to do that without the map looking more cluttered than it already is.
Aug. 2nd, 2010 11:20 pm (UTC)
I love this, however it reinforces why I'm not a fan of labels. If I was this chart would really complicate my life.
Great work!!
Aug. 3rd, 2010 02:01 pm (UTC)
The link to this graphic has been making the rounds, thanks to the domain in the imaeg I came here to find the original.

Love it, thanks for making it :)
Aug. 4th, 2010 02:02 am (UTC)
Love the map, wondering about the tags...
Love the map, game (Onyx) and journal.

Question, though. As a computational astrophysicist (I really am - did computer simulations of supernovas), why the Stellar Nucleosynthesis tag?
Aug. 4th, 2010 01:37 pm (UTC)
Re: Love the map, wondering about the tags...
There's kind of a story behind that.

A while ago, a discussion came up in my network about the technical definition of the word "orgy," which has a lot of connotations attached to it (is it an orgy if there are only three people? Is it an orgy if there are fifteen people but they only have sex with their partners and nobody else?). At last year's Dragon*Con, my sweetie joreth and her other partner and his wife and their other partners (who are probably reading this and can out themselves if they so desire) decided to have what anyone using any definition of the word, no matter how conservative, would describe as an orgy.

There were several threesomes as well. During one of those, I used a stainless steel NJoy sex toy on joreth. Stainless steel is mostly iron and nickel, both of which are formed during the process of stellar nucleosynthesis in stars (nickel is one of the end-stage products in most stars). So I was commenting about how glad I was that we are not orbiting a first-generation star, since that meant that the planet had nickel and iron in the crust, and so I was able to own such a sex toy...and, well, ever since then stellar nucleosynthesis" has been a code word for anything involving group sex in my social set.
Re: Love the map, wondering about the tags... - (Anonymous) - Aug. 16th, 2010 04:32 am (UTC) - Expand
Aug. 4th, 2010 02:02 pm (UTC)
Finally got around to checking out your LJ for myself :) Nice diagram!! I can well imagine the evolution it's gone through! :) Also, would you mind if I friended you?
Aug. 4th, 2010 02:46 pm (UTC)
Not at all. Welcome aboard!
(no subject) - transcendancing - Aug. 4th, 2010 02:57 pm (UTC) - Expand
Aug. 5th, 2010 07:29 pm (UTC)
Very cool diagram.

But what is the box that is second from the right at the bottom? There is nothing there.

I also wonder what this would look like as a Venn diagram.... but there are too many dimensions.
Aug. 27th, 2010 03:33 pm (UTC)
What a great Venn Diagram. I'm grateful for your sleepless nights. ;) Your examples were really good, I was able to place myself right on the map.
(long time follower, first time commenter)
Aug. 27th, 2010 09:34 pm (UTC)
Thanks! And welcome!
Aug. 27th, 2010 05:20 pm (UTC)
Got this through a friend, may I repost on my blogs??
Aug. 27th, 2010 09:34 pm (UTC)
Sure! :)
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