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Secondary relationships

In polyamorous circles, there are many people who want only "secondary" relationships outside of their existing "primary" relationship.

However, the term "secondary" is confusing and often means different things to different people. In the interests of helping clarify some of that confusion, my friend Edward recently proposed a short questionnaire that might be useful to help get everyone on the same page about what exactly is meant by the term "secondary." I've taken his idea and turned it into a handy 3x5 index card, which you can print out and hand to prospective suitors. You can even download a PDF version of the card here.


Jan. 26th, 2011 11:01 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I can see this as a helpful tool! I can see where you would mark it as humorous too. Seeing how long it has been since you've actually been single. Being a single poly person, even in "non-hierarchical relationships" it isn't uncommon to be treated like this. Even after the other person has sworn they wouldn't treat you like this.
Jan. 27th, 2011 06:52 pm (UTC)
Yes. . . I had this same reaction. It's funny in a dark way, but in real life, it's oh so sad.

Jan. 27th, 2011 08:34 pm (UTC)